"The Christian family is a communion of persons, a sign and image of the communion of the Father and the Son in the Holy Spirit. In the procreation and education of children it reflects the Father's work of creation." (CCC2205)

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

identical twins

We're still waiting on our copy of the next National Geographic -- but the cover story is about identical twins -- since finding that we were expecting twins who were most likely identical (thanks to a DNA test when they were 18 months old, we know that they are indeed) -- 

I just read this interesting intro piece on NPR ... 

I try to downplay our girls twin-ship because I want them to have their own lives and to be celebrated ... and punished when applicable ... only for what they did -- not to feel that they are part of a unit, but each alone a person who has her own ideas and opinions, faults and abilities ... We purposely did not name them with names that rhyme or otherwise *go together* we don't generally dress them the same (except when torturing all siblings for a holiday) and we don't expect the same level of work or behavior --

Frankly -- R has a shorter temper with others, but is generally helpful and more studious -- while M is long in patience but generally lazy when asked to be of help and complains like nobody's business about having to go back and re-do work that she sloppily plowed through instead of learning. 

In our city I know they have a twin study program at VCU -- but I've never been more than vaguely curious -- I don't want our twins to be defined by the matter of their birth or DNA -- I want them to be who they are, yet -- I eagerly await seeing what they will think about this next issue of one of their favorite magazines -- if they will decide that being twins is something more than a passing fascination by which they can stand out to new friends ... 

Of course, to hear them tell it -- they are going to live together, M will be a zoo keeper while R will be a veterinarian -- R worries that she'll make all the money and be stuck supporting M all her life. HA!

They are so funny -- and I tell them they are welcome to make all these plans -- but to realize that when they are grown, they will probably not want to live anywhere near each other -- and that's ok too. 

But then I wonder. Is it that different for twins? And how will it be for them? I can try to encourage them to be their own people -- but it is they who will decide how that plays out when they are adults. Not me. 

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